Thursday, October 04, 2007
一个萝卜、一个鸡蛋还有一杯乌龙茶的故事 (modified from: "A carrot, an egg, and a cup of Oolong tea")
每次朋友forward励志的、温馨的好文分享给我,我不是没有开就直接删除,再不然就是读完以后就删除,现在,当我有话想说又不知道该怎么开口时,寻寻觅觅居然没有一个适当的可以用,哎。
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一个萝卜、一个鸡蛋还有一杯乌龙茶的故事
--读了这篇文章以后,你会用不同的眼界看一杯乌龙茶。
有一个年轻的女孩向她的母亲诉苦,告诉她身边为难着她的人与事。她不知道她因该怎么办,她想要放弃,困难接连不断地出现太多的执著和挣扎让她疲惫。
她的母亲把她带到厨房,把三个锅子装满水放在炉子上,很快水就烧开了。
在第一个炉子她放入了萝卜,在第二个炉子放入了鸡蛋,最后一个炉子她放入了乌龙茶叶。
不发一言地,母亲让炉子的火继续烧。
大概二十分钟以后她把炉火熄灭。她依次把萝卜、鸡蛋和乌龙茶放入三个不同的瓷碗中。
这时她转过身莱对女儿说,“告诉我你看见了什么。”
“萝卜、鸡蛋和乌龙茶,”女儿回答。
她的母亲让她走近,然后要她感觉一下萝卜的质感。她照做了,发现萝卜是软的,她的母亲接着要女儿拿起鸡蛋,打破它。拨开了蛋壳,女儿看见了里头全熟蛋。
最后,母亲要女儿和一口乌龙茶,女儿微笑着浅尝了一口香茶。
女儿接着问,“这是什么意思呢,妈妈?”
她的母亲解释说,这三个物件都面对同样的逆境:滚烫的水。但是他们有不同的反应。
坚实的萝卜在热水中变软,易碎的鸡蛋以它薄薄的外壳保护了内在的蛋液,但是在热水中蛋液变得实实在在。
而乌龙茶是最特别的。经过一番热水彻骨,它改变了水的颜色和味道。
“你又是那一种呢?”母亲问女儿。“当面对逆境,你如何回应?你希望自己是一个萝卜、一个鸡蛋,还是一杯乌龙茶?”
想一想:我呢?我是外表坚硬,但是面对困难时就变得虚弱的萝卜?
还是我会是一个境转则心转,由环境而改变的鸡蛋?是不是我有一个柔软的心,但是在困难的磨练下,我把自己变得坚强实在,即使外在的我还一如从前的柔软或脆弱?
或者,我会是一片乌龙茶叶?在经历刻苦铭心的经历中,释放自己内在的气味和芬芳,把热水变成了茶。如果我是一片乌龙茶叶,在最坏的时刻,珍惜自己也砥砺自己,把自己变成更好的人,把自己最好的一面释放出来,为自己打造一个对自己有利的环境。在最黑暗的时刻在最深远的考验中,把自己进阶到另一个更勇敢的自己?
你会选择如何面对逆境?你是一个萝卜、一个鸡蛋还是一杯乌龙茶?
真诚地祝福我的朋友,希望她能够:
在幸福的时候享受甜蜜的滋味
在考验的时候锻炼坚定的意志
在悲痛的时候保持乐天而悯人的胸怀
最快乐的人不必定拥有所有最好的一切;他们只是懂得发掘生命中最美好的一面。面向阳光,影子就会落在身后,忘记过去就会看见美好的前景。
多年前,当你初来到这个世界上的时候,你大声啼哭但是身边的人都在微笑,包括刚刚经历产痛的母亲。
那么,请把你的生命以最圆满的方式完成;当你走到最后的那一天,让你能后心安地微笑,当身边的人都在低声啜泣。
我期勉自己,在困难面前,能够是一颗鸡蛋,或者是一杯乌龙茶。。。。。
。。。。就看在减肥的我,吃了多少,有多少力气和问题打架八!!!!!!
special thanks to
1. Yvelyn, for her great sharings with Toktoktok last March;
2. Toktoktok, she is the one who told me about Yvelyn's post....and the last sentence, in super easy Chinese, is for your understanding also!!!! May you will understand it!!!! kakakaka
=)
Below is the old English version available, it's different from the Chinese one, especially the meanings of egg part, I'm not totally agree so I interpret it in my way...
http://yvelynchan.blogspot.com/2007/03/something-meaningful.html
Wednesday, June 13, 2007
exam, grades and self worth
if anyone has jus started reading this, u can stop now..cos it's gonna be long and depressing to read. i wrote this post in the hope tt i wld and could feel better..and not to burden readers out there.
2 papers over and both uncompleted--far from nearing complete. i always ask myself how come there is this huge inertia to continue writing for 1 question when u only hv 5 min left and u haven started on the last long essay q? why is ur brain so stupid..do u think u can actually spit out sthg logical and legible in <5mins?>
got out of the exam hall..sad but cant cry..does this mean i'm stronger now? does this mean i no longer bother abt academic success as much as b4? shd i be happie tt i didnt cry? i used to tell myself in sec sch tt if u did sthg wrong for a particular pp and u cant change it anymore, quickly start working hard on the next so tt if GOD sees tt u hv learnt ur lesson, he will make things go well for you for BOTH pp..
that was in the past..it worked..it reali did..i noe it sounds stupid saying this but everytime i felt tt i didn do my best for a particular exam and immed started working hard for the next pp/if tt is the last exam, to start studying for the next sem, i will always do well for both the papers.
now..now, it doesn work anymore.does it mean i hv seen thru my prev folly even though it worked b4? aft my econ1120 pp(which i didn complete the last essay q), I told myself to work hard for acct1101 which just ended. but i did not..i dilly dallied, sleeping, eating, cooking, buying groceries..taking my own sweet time..
WHY WHY WHY..how come i lost this ability i always had to discipline myself??? the acct1101 paper is very badly done too..what's the use of being so hardworking throughout the whole sem but when it comes to the exam, ur failure to put in even tt extra effort spoils all the prev hard work u hv contributed?
i reali hope to cry..i badly need sthg to make me cry..i need to face the facts and consequences of my ill-disciplined study; i need to scare myself to reality; i need someone to hug me and tell me tt what's past is past, to reali commit to learning the lessons from this and move on..to hear me blabber and complain..then hold my hand like a good friend and study with me..
(typing the above paragraph has allowed me to cry at last..but not enuf..blame me for being emotional, tt crying is useless..but it's the start of a healing path for me)
i am asking for way too much..my 2 treasured frens who hv been wif me throughout the tough times tt i experienced in aussie are now unable to be there for me..much less anyone else.
whoever manages to read till here wld definitely be asking how come i'm so paranoid over results..i asked myself this question many times throughout my study years..
ans: it's bcos of my younger sister who's 19 this year. she's good in almost everything and can juggle work, play and leisure effectively unlike me, who even if i just concentrate on work alone, wld not be able to do as well as her. it's hard for me to accept tt i am more stupid/useless as compared to her..i noe we shdnt judge pp by their academic grades..but society judges us like that..aren't we supposed to be practical and not devise theoretical ways of judging a person's self-worth when it's not even applied in reality at all?
i must admit tt i hv a very low self esteem of myself and the only way i can feel good abt my ability is if i do well--if i see credible empirical evidence of my ability to perform. if i do well, i wont feel so lousy in front of my sister; i wont feel tt others are looking dwn on me..but it's such a tiring and painful process to stretch my abilities such tt i can match hers..when genetically/biologically/intellectually she is already more able than me.
many who read till here will definitely dismiss and say tt i am thinking too much..i do..i think alot and "torture" myself with all these..like why shd i make life difficult for myself right? but it's been so many years..yet i cant change how i judge and feel abt myself.
my JC fren once said tt i need alot of ASSURANCE--both in absolute terms and in frequency..i reali agree with what she says..maybe ..maybe someday when sum1 can gv me that (sufficient) assurance for me to see/judge myself in a different light can i reali be "liberated" from such thinking..
both papers have been badly done and i hv 1 left on the 18th june..i can see myself procrastinating and being complacent again...and again, i cant control/discipline myself..giving in=eating, sleeping, shopping...instead of studying..i forsee tt again, i deserve to be "punished" by GOD...can and will sum1 out there "save" me.."save" me when i can no longer discipline myself? can tt sum1 scold me and wake me up? make me cry until i reali feel the pain and then start studying?
i don noe..
i shd end this post alr..
congrats to those who read till here..
thank you very much, i sincerely appreciate ur time and patience :)
~shu ling
Sunday, June 03, 2007
a letter to myself...
it's the time of the year again..when you need to rush assignments and prepare for exams..why..you always wonder how come it seems you are always so "unlucky"..that you hv assignmts to rush still at this time and can't work on studying for exams instead..you take so long to write 1 essay..
formulating the essay topic, researching on the topic..picking out the relevant info, rephrasing it so you don commit plagiarism, making sure all ur writing links tgt in 1 coherent whole, checking for mistakes and grammatical errors, doing up the references, cutting words to keep within the word limit.....
it's so draining..so very draining..you are so scared of what is in store as above tt you dare not even start..dare not even make the first step to do enough research on the topic! how come? how come you are so timid? dear girl, if you cant and don even make tt step, you can nv finish ur essay and will nv be able to study for exams at all...
why, you ask urself..why is ur essay due on ur 1st day of exam?...
you are so scared of starting ur essay you keep eating, doing other stuff..dilly dallying..slping at odd hrs, slpin more than 11hrs a day when you already hv no time!! you think of food..eating..rewarding urself..shopping but not abt ur essay..WHEN WHEN ..dear ling..WHEN ARE YOU GOING TO START?
you rem last sem when you had to rush socio essays nearing exam time and you had such a big dilemma abt whether to run home to do it or not..stop running away..stop thinking of food and start working..but u noe u cant..u want to study..you are scared you wont do well..you want to do well..your head is bursting because u cant discipline urself..
you keep telling urself: "ok..jus 1 more bite of cake/bread and yup, i will DEFINITELY start working ya?"...but u noe u nv..u nv did..you are so disappointed in urself cos u can no longer discipline urself..you hv lost the willpower..ur internal ability to WAKE URSELF UP!
ling, no one can help you..will writing this letter to urself wake u up? or is this another "procrastination tactic" of urs..telling urself tt after writing it.. "I WILL START WORKING ON MY ESSAY?" haiz..
you cant run away from ur fear..fear of the draining process tt is to come..no matter how weak ur willpower is..you still hv to go on..you hv to be strong..tell urself u can conquer it and work on it..it's hard to forget abt exams when u are working on ur essay..but u must..please please please..please work hard on ur essay alright?
rgds,
ill-disciplined distressed brat!
Saturday, June 02, 2007
dear yixin
anyway.. it's not too late now, rite? HAPPY 22ND BIRTHDAY, WANG YIXIN!! we had a very short-and-simple lunch together to celebrate her birthday in the midst of exams (like i study very hard.. oh pls..!!) pork+vege+pasta lasagne, mixed fruits and vege salad, yx's home baked cake. just the five of us - yx, me, siang leng, yee hong and bell. oh btw, that's bell's home made lasagne!! it's really not bad, you know? the birthday girl praised him non-stop! :)
this birthday girl looks really good in this clothes, doesnt she? so pretty! :) that's her bday present from bell and i, and the necklace is from sl. uncle gave her a box of marzipan chocolates :)
once again, happy birthday and im sure you had lots of fun on your birthday! working and celebrating your birthday in the bar last nite was *2 thumbs up* and the lunch just now was *2 thumbs up* too! may all your dreams come true, my dear friend! i love you... xoxo
Monday, May 28, 2007
Friday, May 18, 2007
food food and MORE FOOD!!!
Thursday, May 17, 2007
集體回憶
Wednesday, May 16, 2007
桂林游记
人说来到香港不去一趟大陆是一种浪费,为了不浪费这天时地利的大好机会,我和两位朋友跟团参加了五天四夜桂林山水之旅。
巴士途经贺州(“酒是故乡醇”和“茶是故乡浓”的拍摄地)再到杨朔,路程中远眺了月亮山,就在吃饭的地方的正对面,所以有机会拍下照片
银子岩,让我难忘钟乳石岩洞。里面安装了大量人工彩灯,整个岩洞七彩缤纷。
其中最让人叹为观止的是“广寒深宫”--这是一处浅水滩,由于水实在太清,七彩钟乳石的倒影完整呈现,像深不见底的水下世界,又像龙王宫就在脚下。
去了尧山,桂林境内最高峰,到山峰必须乘坐无遮式缆车半天吊几十分钟,这样一来和桂林山水有更直接的接触~鞋带,绑好了。相机,挂好在手上了。手袋,握紧了。出发!!(还好这天风不大,缆车不会摇晃)
还坐了竹筏游漓江支流-遇龙河,看风景的同时也看冒牌刘三姐与船上的旅客对唱,看鸳鸯捉鱼。短短的一个小时,我真正感受到了桂林山水甲天下的名副其实。
原以为跟团旅行,都是aunty uncle,一定不习惯,但原来aunty uncle们都很可爱,而且比我们还精力充沛。原以为花不足500港币的团费的旅行团,一定不能要求吃好的住好的,但四天来住的是非常不错的酒店,吃的餐餐至少8菜1汤(像养猪),只能说:物超所值。
ps:大陆的卫生间。。。我终于亲身经历过了。。不是普通的难受arhhh...
wht a long survey!
Here I go~
1) Name one person who made you smile last night
siyi and H&M
2) What were you doing at 8:00 this morning?
watching “the break up” in room
3) What were you doing 30 minutes ago?
same as #2
4) What was something that happened to you in 2006?
signed contract with MOE
5) What is the last thing you said aloud?
my laughter?? Don really remember
6) How many different things did you drink today?
plain water, chrysanthemum(w/o sugar)
7) What color is your hairbrush?
brown, my dear FL gave me as a present
8) What was the last thing you paid for?
Sunblock, cannot stand the sun anymore…miss the winter a lot
9) Where were you last night?
mongkok, with frenz
10) What color is your front door?
brown
11) Where do you keep your change?
in my changing bag
12) What is the weather like today?
hot hot hot! I don’t like summer…
13) What is the best ice cream flavor?
anythg with caramel
14) What is something you are excited about?
shopping in HK :P
15) Do you want to cut your hair?
Yes I want, probably when I back to Malaysia though
16) Are you over the age of 25?
nope
17) Do you talk a lot?
depends on my mood
18) Do you watch The O.C.?
apa tu? paiseh ah, a bit ketinggalan zaman...(<--copy and paste from yx)
19) Do you know anyone named Steven?
no
20) Do you make up your own words?
yup
21) Are you typically a jealous person?
I don’t think I am
22) Name a friend whose name starts with the letter “A”
I wish to write “Aaron Kwok”,but my ans is Alvin
23) Name a friend whose name starts with the letter “K”
Kelly
24) Who’s the 1st person on your received calls list?
my cousin
25) What did the last text message you received say?
Gambateh!
26) Do you chew on your straws?
a definite no(<--copy and paste from Yx also)
27) Do you have curly hair?
nope
28) Where is the next place you’re going?
cuhk main library, to settle my clearance procedure.. so sad tt I will leave cuhk soon
29) Who is the rudest person in your life?
nope
30) What is the last thing you ate?
武大郎包, a kind of bread with pork and 菜脯 inside
31) Is marriage in your future?
yupe.
32) What is the best movie you’ve seen in the past two weeks?
the break up
33) Is there anyone you like right now?
yupe
34) When was the last time you did the dishes?
ard 1 hour ago
35) Are you currently depressed?
a bit, when I realized that I will be leaving HK soon
36) Did you cry today?
no
37) Why did you answer and post this?
bcos yx tagged me!
38) Tag 5 people who would do this?
有缘人, haha
Sunday, May 13, 2007
doing this instead of sleeping
1) Name one person who made you smile last night
yt and somebody
2) What were you doing at 8:00 this morning?
sleeping, or dreaming
3) What were you doing 30 minutes ago?
ironing clothes on my bed...i k only do it in my bed..super limited resources
4) What was something that happened to you in 2006?
great trips with friends
5) What is the last thing you said aloud?
URGHHH.... (i was tagged)
6) How many different things did you drink today?
plain water, milk with coffee (1:1, as usual)
7) What color is your hairbrush?
brown, it could have lost in many places b4, i.e. Avignon, how fortunately it's still with me =)
8) What was the last thing you paid for?
Chocolate =)
9) Where were you last night?
cbs library, and a restaurant
10) What color is your front door?
white
11) Where do you keep your change?
20 dkk in pursue, usually on my table or in my pocket, 25 ore on the floor
12) What is the weather like today?
super nice!!!! no rain no wind
13) What is the best ice cream flavor?
used to be chocolate, now strawberry(<--affected by yt), fruit (<--affected by loes) and coffee (<--need coffee everyday)
14) What is something you are excited about?
coffee this Tues
15) Do you want to cut your hair?
nope. 250dkk or above for a neighbourhood haircut
16) Are you over the age of 25?
nope
17) Do you talk a lot?
yes, but sometimes super quiet
18) Do you watch The O.C.?
apa tu? paiseh ah, a bit ketinggalan zaman...(<--copy and paste from yt)
19) Do you know anyone named Steven?
no
20) Do you make up your own words?
yup. sometimes cant remember any now...
21) Are you typically a jealous person?
yes and no, depends on whom you're refering to
22) Name a friend whose name starts with the letter “A”
Angle Chin
23) Name a friend whose name starts with the letter “K”
Klaes
24) Who’s the 1st person on your received calls list?
same w/ 1b)
25) What did the last text message you received say?
"cbs now. whr r u" ...n my reply "sofa"...my roommie came all the way to cbs lib to pass me notes...
26) Do you chew on your straws?
a definite no(<--copy and paste from Yt also)
27) Do you have curly hair?
used to have
28) Where is the next place you’re going?
my bed definitely
29) Who is the rudest person in your life?
nope
30) What is the last thing you ate?
grapes
31) Is marriage in your future?
yupe. but no1 wants me
32) What is the best movie you’ve seen in the past two weeks?
nope
33) Is there anyone you like right now?
yupe
34) When was the last time you did the dishes?
half an hour ago? (<--copy and paste from Yt also)
35) Are you currently depressed?
not at all
36) Did you cry today?
no, if i didnt cry bcos i was too happy
37) Why did you answer and post this?
bcos yt n yvelyn tagged me!
38) Tag 5 people who would do this?
mb, kokluei, huiting, ayu, zhong yuan
Thursday, May 10, 2007
1st May + Prof's open house
Sosososo crowded!!!! This is not the Copenhagen I know.
Sorry, no food, busy talking and eating.=)
Tuesday, May 08, 2007
[西班牙葡萄牙+法国南部之一] 久违的阳光——蔚蓝海岸尼斯(Nice)+ 马赛(Marshille)旧港
夏天寻找沙滩的游戏开始。
要劳动就要有体力,
首当其冲的任务就是找一个够热闹的市集买粮食。
a
你一定看错了,上面看到的不是水果,是水果模型的糖果;
果然是夏天,市集里的花到处都是;
a
今天这有可以停靠3500个休闲船只的停泊位。)
(伊夫岛Chateau d’If,伊夫岛是马赛最小的岛,它之所以出名,是因为国王弗兰西斯一世在1516年驾幸此地,下令在此建起堡垒。1634年成为国家监狱,曾囚禁过许多王子贵族,还有新教教徒政治犯革命家等等。人们从全世界涌来,来寻找大仲马著名的《基度山伯爵》中的人物:法利亚神甫和埃德蒙_当岱斯的足迹。 )
扶梯而上过古老的石阶;
(攀登圣维克多修道院 Abbaye de Saint-Victor后的城堡,
修道院于5世纪建于马赛旧港,
14世纪在整个普罗旺斯地区开始了基督化进程。 )
(马赛城里的旧港,上方是加德圣母院大教堂Basilique Notre Dame de La Garde,
大教堂的风格是罗马-拜占庭式的,
在建筑上方有一座高达9.70米的镀金圣母像,俯瞰全城。)
a
(美女身后为马赛旧港)
美丽的梦
室友搬走了,提醒了我一个无情的事实:一个学期的exchange终于来到了尾声。。
从摸不透校巴的路线到赶一堆的报告再到准备考来考取考不完的试
惊觉 我把寒冷的冬天到花开的春天再到酷热的夏天都一一经历过了
原来 时间它真的是世上最勤劳的
否则 怎么可以永不停歇的走得那么快
这是一场梦,一场美丽的梦、异常美丽的梦
短短的 却足够让我用一辈子的时间去怀念
不舍的情绪
在还没和香港说再见之前
酝酿
Tuesday, May 01, 2007
kids and development
i am working as an after sch child care worker near a primary school. you basically prepare afternoon tea and supervise the kids during play and coach them with any homework if they need help. There's also the washing up, cleaning the toilets and learning to handle any quarrels between kids.
i work for about 3 and a half hrs a week with a vietnamese guy who is born in aussie and studies medicine in UQ.
i love this job cos i love kids and some of them are reali lovely. they are so cute and pretty i wld definitely love to take their pics but due to the nature of the job, i am not allowed to. they call me by name and especially those kids from prep school, they can be reali sweet and it warms my heart everytime i see their smiles.
also, i have been to a development discussion on climate change and justice with an NGO--Oxfam Australia, which is linked to Oxfam international. I met some reali great people there who share the same interests as me in development issues. we bring our food there to share--potluck, and after a presentation by the speaker we have some discussion before dinner. it was great sharing my views and hearing what others have to say which reali enriched my knowledge!
i also got to noe a lovely canadian lady who shared with me a romantic love story of how she met her brisbane bf years ago during a thailand trip. they are getting married next year.
i will be attending a fairtrade seminar and discussion next fri at UQ where i will learn about fairtrade coffee, forest conservation and the fairtrade system. i'm looking forward to it but hopefully it wont come so soon cos i have an essay due then! wish me luck as i struggle with words again..
sigh....
take care to all (",)
Sunday, April 29, 2007
"Good" news!!!!!

another good news is
the diagram above has shown sth clearly,
that the Danish Krone (and Euro) has been appreating in the past 4 months!!!!!!!!!
I hope I am lucky enough to survive until mid-JUL!!!!!
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